Let me start by sharing the news that I was called today for an interview in Elizabeth!! I have it scheduled for Friday at 3pm. Please send all the good vibes you can spare for me! I'm excited and feeling very hopeful about the future.
Has anyone else felt a serious shift in energy over the last week or so? I know I have. I suddenly have all this energy and drive that I thought I had lost. I don't know if it's me overcoming vata season or if it's just the universe giving me the push I need. Whatever it is, I'm super grateful that it's happening.
I think one reason for it is that I filled my week with positive people and things and that has truly made a big difference. One such positive force is my friend Wagatwe who I had lunch with today. I've known Wagatwe for about 20 years now which is super crazy. Anyway, she's awesome and has made a huge impact in the world already. She fights for what she believes in and is a true inspiration to me. I had a lovely lunch with her today just hanging out and catching up. She told me about a film event she went to called "How To Lose Your Virginity". No, the movie wasn't about how to have sex for the first time. This is an excerpt from a site promoting the film:
"In a culture that has overwhelmingly embraced the dictum “sex sells,” why does the concept of virginity still hold sway? Using her own experiences, filmmaker Therese Shechter humorously explores the chimerical nature of the idea, and how it’s been used to control women’s sexuality and sense of self-worth. The result, drawing from the expertise of vintage sex-ed films, abstinence advocates, and sex educators alike, is a surprising look at virginity’s influence, from purity pledges to porn sub-genres."
http://www.docnyc.net/film/how-to-lose-your-virginity/#.Uo0bj8Smh8E
I recommend checking out the 4ish minute clip located at the above link. It seems like an interesting look at the concept of virginity. But that has nothing to do with the point I hope to make. What struck me was when Wagatwe showed me a card she received from the event called a "V-card". As most of you know, the term v-card has been used to refer to one's sexual virginity. It's as simply as if you're a virgin you have your v-card and you're no longer a virgin then you don't. But why is sexual virginity the only type of virginity anyone actually cares about? There are plenty of other first time experiences in this world that are surely more life-changing or inspiring than awkward first time sex.
The v-card that Wagatwe showed me was designed like a coffee club punch card. Why? It was designed this way because virginity can refer to far more things than just a sexual encounter. Every time we try something new that we've never done before we're losing a type of virginity.For instance, I lost my yoga virginity back in September 2007 when I took my very first yoga class at Montclair State University (and look where I am now!) I lost my tattoo virginity in 2011 when I got my Om tattoo (don't go get a tattoo and tell people I told you to do it). I lost my driving in the city virginity in October 2012 when I drove to the NYC Kidney Walk. Virginity can really just be anything that we've never tried or done. I've never had Ethiopian food, gone sky diving, or been out of the country (I don't really count my trip to Toronto). There are so many opportunities in our lives to still enjoy firsts and get punches in the v-card of life (I don't care how corny that sounded).
I fear that the closer we get to being established in life, the less likely we are to try new things or take chances. Some of us have career jobs and apartments/houses and loan payments and get into this routine of, "This is now my life". We sit back and fully believe that this day-to-day is just the way things are. We fear shaking things up.
STOP IT
Try something new! You'd be amazed at how invigorating it is to try something that you haven't done before. You may just decide to try a new class at the gym or take an impromptu road trip to a state you've never been to. Hell, even if you just get coffee at a shop other than Starbucks or Dunkin Donuts. Pop one of your cherries, dammit. This is me telling you what to do. It is WAY too easy to get in a rut and to let months and years pass by without changing anything up or trying anything new. Go out and get your v-card punched by trying something new. Let me know how it goes, even if you hate it. I'd love to hear what new thing you tried because I'm nosy like that.
Note: please don't take this as an invitation to punch people in the face/otherwise cause harm to another human being/living thing simply because I'm encouraging you to try something new. Don't be morons about it, people. Now go take that damn spin class you keep avoiding!
I recommend checking out the 4ish minute clip located at the above link. It seems like an interesting look at the concept of virginity. But that has nothing to do with the point I hope to make. What struck me was when Wagatwe showed me a card she received from the event called a "V-card". As most of you know, the term v-card has been used to refer to one's sexual virginity. It's as simply as if you're a virgin you have your v-card and you're no longer a virgin then you don't. But why is sexual virginity the only type of virginity anyone actually cares about? There are plenty of other first time experiences in this world that are surely more life-changing or inspiring than awkward first time sex.
The v-card that Wagatwe showed me was designed like a coffee club punch card. Why? It was designed this way because virginity can refer to far more things than just a sexual encounter. Every time we try something new that we've never done before we're losing a type of virginity.For instance, I lost my yoga virginity back in September 2007 when I took my very first yoga class at Montclair State University (and look where I am now!) I lost my tattoo virginity in 2011 when I got my Om tattoo (don't go get a tattoo and tell people I told you to do it). I lost my driving in the city virginity in October 2012 when I drove to the NYC Kidney Walk. Virginity can really just be anything that we've never tried or done. I've never had Ethiopian food, gone sky diving, or been out of the country (I don't really count my trip to Toronto). There are so many opportunities in our lives to still enjoy firsts and get punches in the v-card of life (I don't care how corny that sounded).
I fear that the closer we get to being established in life, the less likely we are to try new things or take chances. Some of us have career jobs and apartments/houses and loan payments and get into this routine of, "This is now my life". We sit back and fully believe that this day-to-day is just the way things are. We fear shaking things up.
STOP IT
Try something new! You'd be amazed at how invigorating it is to try something that you haven't done before. You may just decide to try a new class at the gym or take an impromptu road trip to a state you've never been to. Hell, even if you just get coffee at a shop other than Starbucks or Dunkin Donuts. Pop one of your cherries, dammit. This is me telling you what to do. It is WAY too easy to get in a rut and to let months and years pass by without changing anything up or trying anything new. Go out and get your v-card punched by trying something new. Let me know how it goes, even if you hate it. I'd love to hear what new thing you tried because I'm nosy like that.
Note: please don't take this as an invitation to punch people in the face/otherwise cause harm to another human being/living thing simply because I'm encouraging you to try something new. Don't be morons about it, people. Now go take that damn spin class you keep avoiding!
You need to try Ethiopian food ASAP!
ReplyDeleteIt's on my list of things to do! :)
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